How to manage unexpected Grief
Updated: Feb 2
If you are like me and millions of other people, and have lost a loved one unexpectedly you know how difficult this process is and how unbearable the pain can feel.
1. The first step in this process is to do everything in your power to understand that you are not alone. Just as it takes a village to raise a child, it takes a village to grieve a child, a friend, a family member, co worker etc. anyone who is close to our heart. Grief is a completely individual process, there's no "one way" as we all take different paths, but here are some ways to help guide you through it.
2. Know it is ok to be alone and cry, and be angry, not understand what happened, but you must not stay in this place. Cry, scream, yell, go for a hike, get outdoors, talk to your departed and then reach out for help if you feel alone. Because I can assure you, you are not alone. Accept your feelings & never try to deny how you feel.
3. Talk to friends, family, professionals. This is not a sign of weakness, it takes great strength to reach out. Plus you reaching out to someone could be just what they need as well & together you can build each other up and honor the memory of your departed loved one.
4. Be active in making choices about engaging in activities and rituals that your know feel good.
5. Understand grief. Know that this is a natural response to loss. The pain of the loss can feel overwhelming and you may feel emotions you have never encountered, but know these are completely normal reactions, obviously the more significant role of the person you lost the more intense the feelings will be.
6. There is no time frame for grief either. Could take some 6 months, some 10 years, some may not show anything at all but process differently. Be patient with yourself and others. Grief is a rollercoaster of emotions so just take it day by day with baby steps.